Eddie


 * Record of Assignments **
 * Name of Student :** Eddie Dwelly

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** Pre-Adolescence **

** W : What you want to know (curiosities) **

 * How do kids view same-couples?**

** L : What you learned **

 * 1) Physical
 * 2) Cognitive
 * 3) Emotional
 * 4) Social

** 1. Physical **
With  physical development   comes puberty which changes the biological aspect of the person. Puberty is happening at earlier ages (7-17 for females and 8-20 for males). This is having kids think that they are becoming more mature in their mind also which is not always the case. When kids think this they also think that they can make adult decisions such as having sex at earlier ages. Kids do not know the repercussions of having sex but engage in doing so anyway. I think the best way #|for kids to know about this is parent/guardian #|intervention. This means as soon as the parent or guardian sees that their child is going through puberty they need to inform and educate them about the responsibilities and problems that can come with involving themselves in   risky behavior.

** 2. Cognitive **
Some people were confused on how people could date the same sex because their religions have brain washed them into believing that it is wrong and people who do date the same sex are sinning and are going to hell for doing so. When people say that to me, I am dumbfounded that people can believe a book saying people

** 3. Emotional **
In today's world a lot of parents are   getting divorced   , which in turn lets the children of the parents caught in the middle who are hurting the most. Most kids don't know how to handle this stressful situation and will usually act-out. Sometimes the acting -out involves sexual relations with others. They do not know the responsibilities that go along with sex and also the consequences if something bad happened. Children do this because they are striving for attention from their parents and will result in risky behavior such as sex, drug use, etc ...

** 4. Social **
The same situation with the social aspect as the emotional and when they want attention they will usually result in risky behavior and will want attention from parents but will like attention from anyone and sometimes result in sexual activity.

** A. Site details: **

 * Name of site: Jeremy Gunderson-Outlaw's famil
 * Contact person: Jeremy: 547-702-5006



__** B. Describe your setting **__
The setting of the place where I observed was a house of two parents and two children. The day that I observed was a party so there was the two children of theirs plus three more children who came. The house was very #|child friendly because they have a basement with toys and unbreakable things. They also have a child friendly upstairs with   leather furniture   , wood and    tile floors    so if a kids spill drinks it is easier to clean up. These kids are privileged who's family's are middle class  and up.

__** C. Describe what you did at the site (free-write/journal formatting) **__

 * __1st visit: Logansport, Indiana__ **
 * I'm going to first talk about Logansport, Indiana. This city about an hour north of Indianapolis is a small city where nothing really goes on besides Friday Night High School football and then church on Sunday. When we first got there, our reactions were this could be quite interesting because its a small Catholic city and catholicism do not accept same-sex couples. A lot of people looked at us and gave us snide remarks about our lifestyle.
 * We went out to eat everyday since we didn't bring any food to eat inside a #|hotel room. We went to a couple restaurants While we were eating, people were viewing us and saying things they didn't think we could here but we could easily make out what they were saying. Some people just looked and went back to their own business while others decided to stay in our business. People even came up to us and said some hurtful things I didn't people would say to someones face. This surprised me but I didn't want to make a seen so I just ignored what they were saying and kept eating. So overall Logansport is not that open to same-sex couples.
 * We went out to eat everyday since we didn't bring any food to eat inside a #|hotel room. We went to a couple restaurants While we were eating, people were viewing us and saying things they didn't think we could here but we could easily make out what they were saying. Some people just looked and went back to their own business while others decided to stay in our business. People even came up to us and said some hurtful things I didn't people would say to someones face. This surprised me but I didn't want to make a seen so I just ignored what they were saying and kept eating. So overall Logansport is not that open to same-sex couples.


 * __2nd visit: #|Chicago, Illinois__ **
 * When I went up to #|Chicago, it was nice to go to his house finally. He just recently told his family about him being gay so it was quite special for me being the first person to bring to his family. The weekend I went up there was the weekend of his going away party because he was leaving for Marine Boot Camp soon.
 * He has told me that his family is open to being gay and all besides his grandparents. He has a half-brother and a half-sister who are gay/lesbian so they are used to it but his grandparents are not open to it. They wouldn't say anything about us but they know just how they look at us that they're not open to it. This made things a little awkward because it was all about my boyfriend and so all eyes were on him and I. The night went well and his family and friends were really nice and I could tell that all they really cared about was whatever makes him happy made them happy. I think everyone's family should be like this because it isn't their place to judge someone on who makes them happy.


 * __3rd visit:__ **
 * While my boyfriend and I were here in Cincinnati, we also went out on dates to restaurants and other places. When we were at a haunted house attractions, you could tell people were staring at us. Some people were actually making fun of us by doing stereotypical gestures and sounds and also by saying stuff to our face. Others were so outraged by others reactions, they were defending us and sticking up for people trying to bully us. This is how Cincinnati resembles both Chicago and Logansport in some ways.
 * While we were at UC for my classes, people would look at us while we were eating or walking and holding hands. Some people had a smile, some didn't have an emotion, and some had a disgusted face but wouldn't say anything. This opened my eyes to how sheltered people were but also how open people are to same-sex couples.

** Physical **
What did you notice about the physical differences between boys and girls (pp. 283-288)? With my experience there wasn't any similarities on how the males and females who were accepting or not accepting of same-sex couples.

What did you notice about the adolescent’s mood (p. 289)? The moods changed based on the geographic region we were in. Kids in Chicago and Cincinnati were happy and peaceful about us but in Logansport the kids once they saw us got irritated and angry with two guys being together.

What did you notice about the adolescent’s relationship with adults (p. 289)? Majority of the kids respected their parents when they told their kids what to do. Some had a little resistance but then slowly did what their parents told them.

What did you notice about the role of body image in adolescent behavior (p. 290)? The kids really didn't care about how others viewed them.

What did you notice about peer relationships ( pp. 290-291)? Mostly the boys hung out with other boys and the girls with other girls unless they were playing soccer where they mixed to have even #|play and they wanted the best players so they chose who was better over the sex.

What did you notice about eating habbits (pp. 291-292)? Since I wasn't observing others eat, I don't know how their eating habits were.

What did you notice about issues around sex (sex __ education __, sexual references, sexual activity, teen pregnancy, etc.) (pp. 293-299) The kids really didn't have an issue with same-sex couples in Chicago an Cincinnati but in Logansport the kids were thrown off and confused on why two guys were holding hands and kissing. Some got offensive and verbally expressed their feelings to us.

What did you notice about __ substance abuse __ or substance related references (pp. 299-300)? From what I was noticing there wasn't any substance abuse with any kid.

** Cognitive **
Some people were confused on how people could date the same sex because their religions have brain washed them into believing that it is wrong and people who do date the same sex are sinning and are going to hell for doing so. When people say that to me, I am dumbfounded that people can believe a book saying people

** Emotional **
I really didn't get any emotions from kids that didn't care who I was or who I liked but the kids that had a problem with it, their emotions were full of confusion and anger.

** Social **
There were a lot of social aspects of my observations. Since I was observing how are kids viewing same-sex couples, I had to integrate communication with them and see what they were thinking of this subject. I would talk to the parents and ask them if it was okay if I would talk to their kids. While I was just playing with the kids I opened up a feel free zone where they could ask me any question and I would answer the best I could. The most common questions kids would ask "are we friends", "what does gay mean", "how do you know you're gay", and "have people made fun of you for being gay". Or if kids didn't want to talk to me they would say "idk" a lot or if they didn't like who I was they would tell me to leave them alone. That only happened in Logansport, Indiana. This surprised me because I didn't think kids would be so closed minded to a thing they know nothing about.

** Revisiting Your Curiosities **

 * W : What you want to know (curiosities) **

I think the best way is to find what they are motivated by and use that to have them participate in the classroom and also to enjoy what they are doing. If I just have them know that if they need anything or need someone to talk to that I am always there for them. Also if I go to school events and talk to them outside the classroom, I would see a different side to them and know what they like and get motivated by. If I can notice bullying going on quickly, I would be able to stop it before it gets out of hand so then my students will be able to be themselves in my classroom without having to worry that someone is going to make fun of them. What if I have a child who is getting bullied at home, school, and outside these places, what am I going to do?
 * 1. What are ways to have my students to engage in the classroom?**
 * 2. How can I know each and every one of my students?**
 * 3. How can I open a worry free environment in my classroom?**
 * 4. What new questions emerge for you as a future teacher ?**